[So the parent was the start, then, or perhaps one of the siblings... or even this man himself. This is the first generation he's speaking to, regardless... no wonder he seems a little insecure in his answers.]

So it comes naturally to you, and you refine it with another means. Not every type of magic follows that sort of rule - I think it may be one of the trickier ones to adapt out of in a pinch.

When you're "looking for" things... is it something tangible in your mind that you try to bring into existence? Or do you just reach out blindly until something comes to you instead?